RPM : Recall Notice (Full Experience)

They called Him Jesus. He came to love. And He'll end for Him. He let Him die. To buy my party. And Him Jesus is there to prove my Savior. Let's sing because He loves. Because He lives. I can face tomorrow. Because He lives. Oh, fear is gone. Because I know He holds the future. And life is worth living just because He lives. Come on, let's sing 'em. I'll sing 'em to hold. A newborn baby. And feel the pride. And joy he gives. But greater still. The calm assures. This child can face a certain day. Because He ends Jesus' land. Because He lives. Come on, I can face tomorrow. Because He lives. Oh, fear is gone. Because I know He holds the future. And life is worth living just because He lives. He's not in the grave anymore. He is risen and exalted.

Heaven on high above and on. That's why we praise. That's why we worship Him. Come on, sing. And then one day. I'll cross the river. I'll fight life's fire. No war with pain. And then I'll stand. Gives way to victory. I'll see the light of glory. And I'll know He lives. Come on, sing 'em one more time. I'll see the light of glory. And then I'll know He lives. Gives He lives. Jesus lives. Because He lives. I know I can face tomorrow. Because He lives. Oh, fear is gone. Because I know He holds the future. And life is worth living just because He lives. Oh, and life is worth living just because He lives. Give a prayer. ♪ All I was a rage. I remember who I was. I was lost. I was blind.

I was running out of time. And sin separated. The breach was far too wide. But from the far side of the castle, He held me in your side. So you made a way across the great divide. Left behind Heaven's throne to build it here inside. Thank you, Jesus, for the blood of heart. Thank you, Jesus, it has washed me wide. Thank you, Jesus, you have saved my life. Brought me from the darkness into glorious light. Oh, we thank you all. We see you took my place, laid inside my tomb of sin. You were buried for three days, but then you walked right out again. And nothing has to see, and life has to wait. For I have been transformed by the blood of the hell. Thank you, Jesus, for the blood of heart. Thank you, Jesus, it has washed. Thank you, Jesus, you have saved my life. Brought me from the darkness into glorious light. Oh, we see there is nothing stronger than the wonder-working power of the flame. The flame that calls the sons and daughters, we all answer my above the view. The flame, the flame, oh, there is nothing stronger than the wonder-working power of the flame. The flame that calls the sons and daughters, we all answer my above the view. The flame, the flame. Thank you, Jesus, for the blood of blood. Thank you, Jesus, it has washed me wide. Thank you, Jesus, you have saved my life. You brought me from the darkness. Yes, you brought me from the darkness. Oh, you brought me from the darkness into glorious light. Thank you, Jesus. Thank you. This is how we know what love is. This is how we know what love is. Your sacrifice, your own precious, is the flow that makes me white as snow. No other founds I know nothing but the blood of Jesus. No one found time, no, it was nothing but the blood.

Only your blood, only your blood, say, "Oh, precious, this is how love thinks you can." I made you wide as snow, no one found time, no, it was nothing but the blood. Only your blood, only your blood, say, "Oh, precious, this is how you know our love is, that makes me wide." Only your blood, only your blood, say, "Oh, precious, this is how you know our love is, that makes me wide." It could have only been the blood that set me free, glory, how do you know your heart been redeemed? I know it was your blood, it could have only been the blood that set me free, glory, how do you know your heart been redeemed? And I know it was, it was only his blood, it could have only been the blood that made me clean. Could have only been the blood that set me free, glory, how do you know your heart been redeemed? I know it was your blood, it was your blood, it was your blood that makes me wide as snow, no one found time, no, it was nothing but the blood. Oh, Jesus, come on one more time, we see all precious in self-love that makes me white as snow. Oh, Jesus, nothing but the blood of Jesus, it was nothing but the blood of Jesus. Jesus, we thank you so much and there are never enough adequate words that we could string together to express in this place what you've offered us this gift, how you would come from heaven to earth for us because you love us and because you want us to have a relationship with you that lasts forever. You would live this perfect life something none of us could ever do and then you would shed your blood you would die a sacrificial death for all of us to wipe away all of our mistakes and all of our wrongdoings and and bad thoughts all of our sin God just wash it away and then you rose again you are the living God and because you live we can have hope if we just put our hope and our trust in you there are not any words that we could string together to say thank you enough so we bring you what we have and it is all of our praise because you are worthy of every breath more than anything else in life we bless you this morning is all my words fall short and i've got nothing new how could i express all my gratitude and i can sing these songs as i often do but every song will stay and you'll never do let's sing it together so i throw my hands and raise you again ♪ Every day ♪ (singing in foreign language) (singing in foreign language) (singing in foreign language) ♪ I've got one response ♪ ♪ I've got just one move ♪

♪ With my arm stretched wide ♪ ♪ I will worship you ♪ ♪ So I throw my hands ♪ ♪ And praise you again and again ♪ ♪ So I got 'cause all that I have ♪ ♪ Isn't all there ♪ ♪ And I know it's not much ♪ ♪ But I've nothing else to forgive ♪ ♪ Except for heart-seeking ♪ ♪ And I know it's not much ♪ ♪ But I've got just one move ♪ ♪ And I know it's not much ♪ ♪ But I've got just one move ♪ ♪ And I know it's not much ♪ ♪ And I know it's not much ♪ ♪ And it's not much ♪ ♪ But the Bible tells us ♪ ♪ And he wants to hear your voice ♪ ♪ And your voice means something to him ♪ ♪ Your praise blesses his heart ♪ ♪ Your praise blesses the heart of God ♪ ♪ So this horn, don't hold back ♪ ♪ Let's pour it out ♪ ♪ Give him a praise ♪ ♪ Give him a praise ♪ ♪ Let's pour it out ♪ ♪ Give him a praise ♪ ♪ Oh, he's saying, come on, man ♪ ♪ Don't you kiss, shine ♪ ♪ He lived up your soul ♪

♪ But you got a line beside those songs ♪ ♪ To get a big praise ♪ ♪ Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh ♪ ♪ Come on, come on, man ♪ ♪ So you sing ♪ ♪ Oh, don't you get shy of me ♪ ♪ And tell your song ♪ ♪ 'Cause you got a line beside those songs ♪ ♪ Can't have been praise alone ♪ ♪ I know we can get louder than that ♪ ♪ Father, shift, change, come on ♪ ♪ Come on, my soul ♪ ♪ Oh, don't you get shy of me ♪ ♪ That's all your song ♪ ♪ You got a line beside those songs ♪ ♪ Can't have been praise alone ♪ ♪ So I follow my hands ♪ ♪ But as you again, again ♪ ♪ Swore that I have, it's the heartache ♪ ♪ Oh, yeah ♪ ♪ Oh, yeah ♪ ♪ And I know it's not much ♪ ♪ But I'm nothing else to keep for you ♪ ♪ It's that full of hearts that you have made ♪ ♪ St. God in the mood, yeah ♪ ♪ Oh, praise the sky ♪ ♪ I'll let you, yeah ♪ ♪ I'll let you, yeah ♪ ♪ Come on, give 'em a shout of praises for it ♪ ♪ I'll praise this to the one ♪

♪ There is nothing better ♪ ♪ Than to have the living hope that comes from Jesus ♪ ♪ And to know the love of God which purchased it for us ♪ ♪ In full on the cross ♪ ♪ Are you thankful for that today? ♪ ♪ Because he lives ♪ ♪ We can face anything ♪ ♪ Welcome to Fellowship Church ♪ ♪ It's gonna be a great day ♪ ♪ I want you to high five, like three people say ♪ ♪ Get ready, get ready, get ready ♪ ♪ And you may be seated ♪ (upbeat music) - Welcome to Fellowship Church. Today, we are beginning a brand new series called RPM. So today, I'm bringing you the church news RPM style. (upbeat music) - Wherever you're joining us from, we're One Church family in many locations. we are so glad that you're here. We weren't made to cruise through life alone. We all need people to tell us to slow down or you missed your exit. Finding your people is easier than ever at Fellowship Church. Whatever season you're in, there's a place for you here to connect, grow, and make a difference. And buckle up because we've got some big things ahead. Students, God wants to use you. And this Wednesday is one night at the mix,

a night to bring one friend to meet the one who can change their life. Jesus and Church, let's rally behind them. Text the word pray to 32898 and join us in praying every day for what God is going to do at one night. And for the young adults, who we do life with matters. So come join equip for a night of worship, community, and volleyball, and find those people to take your life to the next level. And finally, for the men, being a godly man is a fight we weren't meant to fight alone. That's why we're hosting the Stay in the Fight Men's Rally with Pastor Ed Young. Join us for a fight night atmosphere that will equip all men to be strong and bold in their faith. These are just some of the things happening at Fellowship Church. To discover more, simply tap your seat or fill out our connect card. We'll reach out to you first thing this week. We're so glad you're here. We can't wait to see what God has in store for your life. Now, let's cruise back into today's experience. Fellowship Church, how are we feeling? Oh, come on, how are we feeling? You excited to be in the house of God today? There we go. Welcome, welcome. We are so glad that you're here,

especially those of you who are here for the first time. Can we show our appreciation to all the guests in the room today? We'd love to help you find community. There's two ways that you can do that today. First and foremost, you can grab the connect card on the seat back in front of you, or you can tap your phone on the seat back in front of you, begin to fill that out in just a moment as the offering passes, you can drop that in there. Secondly, we've got our newcomers luncheon happening today. This is where you can find out how to grow in your faith, get involved in Fellowship Church, find community. We'll take care of your kiddos if they're in FC kids, and we'd love to feed you as well. And I don't know about you, but I look at all of the things that are taking place in our church, and I get so fired up because it reminds me that it's more opportunities to reach people with the good news of Jesus Christ. Anybody thankful for that? We've got a church that is in stagnant, but that is constantly moving forward. And we're able to do those things because of the generosity of God's people, people who understand that the greatest kingdom we can build is God's kingdom. So thank you for your faithfulness. Thank you for your generosity.

In fact, just this Saturday, we're gonna be hosting a really special event called a Walk to Remember. And this is for parents or families who have endured the pain of a miscarriage or the loss of a child. And maybe you've walked through that. We'd love to have you there this Saturday as we get to bring hope to families who are walking through some really difficult times. And speaking of hope, we have begun construction on the anchor center as we get ready to continue to build, continue to take ground for the kingdom of God, and it fires me up. So hope she can begin to pass the offering. And as they do, we are starting a brand new series today, all about relationships, all about passion, all about marriage. And we thought before we get into the message, we thought we'd test if you're ready for this series. So here's what we're gonna do. We're gonna throw up some scenarios on the screen. And we're gonna give you an option of whether this is a red flag, which is not good, or a green flag, which is like, "Hey, two thumbs up, this is good." Okay, so you've gotta engage with me on this and tell me what you think this is. First scenario, they leave one second on the microwave

instead of clearing it. Say it out loud, say I need to hear, I need to know that we know that this is a red flag. It's one button, just clear it, okay? This is an OCD, this is just common courtesy. Thank you for the collapse in the back right corner. Second scenario, they already have your coffee order memorized. It's a green flag, unless it's the first day. That's a stalker vibe, we don't need that in these streets. Third scenario, we need to talk about this. We need to address this. They use speakerphone in public. What is it, church? It's a red flag, and if that offends you, I'm glad it does. Next scenario, they stand up the second after the plain lands. You can also replace this with anyone who claps when the plain lands. This is problematic, that is a dark red flag. Next scenario, they come to Fellowship Church every Sunday. That's as green as it gets in Fellowship Church. I think we're officially ready for R-P-M. (dramatic music) (airplane engine roaring) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music)

(intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) (intense music) - Well, there's no doubt about it. There is nothing like driving a Rolls-Royce, even if it's only a few feet. (audience laughs) I mean, just sitting in this car is like, gotta be kidding me. It takes at least six months for some models over a year to build a Rolls-Royce. The whole process takes place in England and all of these experts hand-make the car. No assembly line. I mean, it's a Rolls-Royce. When you just say Rolls-Royce, you know you're talking about the ultimate. I think it's interesting that Rolls-Royce, they don't do a lot of advertising. You don't see, you brought to you by Rolls-Royce, do you? It's just a Rolls, is a Rolls drop? The mic, it's a Rolls-Royce.

I read this week some shocking news about a Rolls-Royce and that this kind of surprised me. There's a major recall notice on Rolls-Royce's. Their braking system for some of the models has malfunctioned and this recall notice said that if the owner fails to get the defective part fixed, it could cause a crash. In other words, it could injure the driver and others. A recall notice, even with a Rolls-Royce. In this series, God is going to give us a recall notice because there's a lot of defective parts in our relationships, passion, and marriage. And specifically today, we're going to look at defective daters. There are some daters out there who are defective. In other words, the spouse selection process is not really going that great. You're not gonna be going well at this very presumptuous. How could you say that? How could you say that? Well, here's some good news, 86% of everyone, that's right, of everyone who is single wants to get married. Round of applause. (audience applauding) It's good, it's good. But here's some bad news. 40% of marriages end in divorce. 67% of second marriages end up as relational wreckage and 73% of third marriages don't make it.

So obviously, we're not doing some things right. So dating is what you do and don't do before you say I do because what you do and don't do before you say I do really has an impact on what you do and don't do after you say I do. If you're married, in reality, if you're a parent, the meta narrative here, it's more for you than your kids. What? Just stay with me. You might be thinking, oh, I can just count ceiling tiles or I can play golf for the next several weeks during this series. I'm a parent or I'm married, no, no, no, no, no. This series is just for you and it's just for me and I'm a grandfather. This rolls Royce. It's a sweet ride, isn't it? Now some of you are saying, oh, man, I can't believe you drove a Rolls Royce into church. Man, that's gimmicky. No, it's not, it's godly. Oh, that's trite, that's flippant. No, it's from Christ's playbook. If you ever go to church and you find yourself bored, blame the communicator, the pastor, don't blame God. Yeah, for some reason, we go to church and expect boredom. We are in, and this is going to mess you up. We are in the entertainment business. Entertainment's a good word. The word entertainment means to capture and wholesome ones

attention for an extended period of time. What did Jesus do? He captured and he held people's attention for an extended period of time. And he used illustrations and metaphors, exhibit A. Those are just a few. Exhibit B. Those are just a little bit of it. So if you don't use illustrations, if you don't use metaphors, if you don't use visuals, you're not being fully biblical in your communication. So we should welcome this, and I'm so happy for 35 years. Fellowship Church is a creative church because we are made in the image of our creative creator. The first thing we know about God is the fact that God is creative in the beginning God created. You are a creative genius. I am a creative genius, but for some reason, we think we should shut it down in church. What Bible are you reading? You're not reading the Bible. You're scrolling too much. I'm talking Bible here. You realize you're a Rolls Royce? I don't think you heard me. You are a Rolls Royce. I mean, you've been custom made, not an assembly line. You've been custom made. I've been custom made, and the one who made me and you makes a Rolls Royce look pathetic, weak, not even getting there.

The Bible says that we're made. We're fashioned by the God of the universe. Is that awesome? I'm made in the image of God, so are you. So I'm a Rolls Royce, just say it. One, two, three. I'm a Rolls Royce. Yeah. Now, some of us don't understand or realize we're a Rolls Royce, but I'm telling you, you are. And when it comes to spell selection, when it comes to a recall notice, when it comes to defective daters, I only just give you a suggestion. I'm going to give you something that I've observed that defective daters do as it relates to a Rolls Royce. Number one, defective daters fail to look at who is driving the car. Defective daters fail to open the door and to look and to see who's driving the car. Am I the only one, but when I pull up to an intersection, if I see a Rolls, I'm going to try to be cool, you know? I'm always trying to be cool, but I'm kind of looking. I'm like Lisa, who is in that car? Is it Matthew McConaughey, Sidney Sweeney, Morgan Walling? Who is it? Some icon, some multi-billionaire? Who is driving the Rolls? If you're single, because you have the urge to merge. You better look and you better notice, parent,

you better teach your kids this. Oh, please. Grandparent, you can help in this realm. Who is driving the Rolls? In many circumstances and situations, we white knuckle the steering wheel, don't we? I'm not made to drive my life. My friend, you're not made to drive your life. Yeah, we white knuckle it. I'm going to drive. I'm going to do what I'm going to do, and it'll work for a while, but this car is not made to go off-roading. It's not made to hit guard rails, it's not made for a crash. You don't buy a Rolls Royce going, oh boy, Years ago, I was in Miami and I have a friend in Miami who is one of the top race car drivers of all time. Don't Google his name, his name is Emerson Fittepaldi. He's won Grand Prix, he's won Indy 500s. He is a true legend, probably one of the top 10, 20 greatest race car drivers ever. So Emerson and I were talking, Lisa was there, his wife was there, and Emerson's from Brazil, and he's a cool guy, and he goes, I wanna take you, at this little lunch place down the street. I'll look over and I'm in my Tahoe. And I just instinctively, I go, Emerson, I don't know where I'm going, and if you know me, you know I'm directionally challenged.

I just threw him the keys to my Tahoe, and he got behind the wheel, and we start driving to this restaurant in Miami, through that crazy traffic, and I'm saying to myself, Emerson Fittepaldi is driving my Tahoe. Then I thought, Ed, how foolish would you be to go? Hey, Emerson, pull over, let me drive, my man. I know how to drive, and I know how to get there. That's how foolish I look when I try to take the wheel from Jesus in my marriage, in my parenting. If you're single in your dating relationship, if you're talking to someone, or if it's official, say I know the cool lingo, tender and bumble and all the profiles and the texting. One of the reasons that a lot of us can't even talk to a member of the opposite sex is because of these cellular devices. We spend so much time using our thumbs, tapping on the glass screen. We don't know how to meet someone, to have eye contact. We don't understand manners, we don't understand how to ask a lady out. We are absolutely clueless. So we're not doing a good job, even though there are more dating apps than we can think about. It's a big deal of dating apps. If you ever thought about this, they're incentivized to keep you single. They don't want you married,

if anyone gets married, they're out of business. It's kind of funny. A lot of us just OD on options. Oh, look at her. Oh, wow. (speaking in foreign language) I'm going to read to you the most unpopular scripture verse in all of the Bible to those who are unmarried. Are you ready? I mean, you're going to hate this verse, but after I unpack it, I believe empowered by the Holy Spirit, you're going to love it. But when I read it, it'll freak you out. But just listen to it. Second Corinthians chapter 6, 14. I didn't write it, the apostle Paul did. Inspired by the Holy Spirit of God. Here's what he said, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers." Now, back in the day, when I read that, I was thinking about egg yolks and I'm thinking, man, I want to eat egg whites, protein, whatever. No, that's not it. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers for what do righteousness to wickedness have in common or what fellowship, it's a good name for a church, can light half with darkness? Oh, no! Because if I obey this verse and I'm not married, two-thirds of the potential candidates have been deleted.

Ouch! I don't like that verse. Oh, you will, you will. God has your best interests in mind when he, through the Holy Spirit, can this from the apostle Paul's hand? You see, Paul was writing to the church at Corinth and Corinth, they were dealing with a lot of issues. It was a very fast-paced, very cosmopolitan, very, very, very cool vibe. So a lot of the Christians, they were torn between, should I merge with people who are not followers of Christ? I mean, should I do business and really have these deep relationships with people who are far away from God? I mean, what should I do? Well, Paul says, do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. The yoke is a piece of farm equipment and you would put animals. And if you did that, you could plow in a straight line. Does that make sense? So ox and ox, you know, horse or horse, you do that. Equal size, strength, you're gonna plow in a straight line. God wants us to hit on all cylinders. See, he wants us to merge with someone who is a follower of Christ. Is God being capricious or cruel? Discriminatory, is God practicing spiritual apartheid here? Heck to the know, he's being strategic and loving. You matter so much to God. I matter so much to God. He couldn't stand the thought of us merging with someone who was not a follower of Christ.

So it's a great verse. And the plot even clots, if you look at the book of Deuteronomy, Deuteronomy chapter 22, verse 10, the Bible says this, "Do not plow with an ox and the donkey yoked together." I wonder, I mean, that's kind of unique that the Bible would say that. The more I studied it, here's what I discovered. An ox was considered a clean animal to the Jews. A donkey was considered an unclean animal. A donkey, if it was hooked up to an ox, if it was unequally yoked, both the donkey and the ox would experience great pain because the yoke is not going to work on top of that. They're not going to plow on a straight line. Okay, I get that. As I got deeper, I found out donkeys eat poisonous grass. And if you unequally yoke a donkey with an ox, the donkey's halitosis, bad breath, can make the ox sick, and in some cases, the ox would die. So if you, my friend, merge with the wrong person, watch out for that halitosis. I just made that word up. So this text is really an NDA. You know, God wants us to sign an NDA? NDA. Well, let's go into verse one, oh, it's not. It's from God, merge with the same nature, merge with the same nature because nature determines association in the A. Say it with me, nature determines association. It's brilliant. It's brilliant. Okay, who's driving? That's the question, right, singles that we need to ask to this particular person that we're talking to, right? If you need to ask, there's probably an issue because very quickly, right up front, the person is going to tell you and show you that they're a believer.

But let's just say you get to know them and you ask them. So you go for the ask and here's what you ask, do you have a story? In other words, how do you find out if Jesus is driving the car? You must have a key transfer story. I threw the keys to Emerson and he drove and I wrote shotgun. A true Christian will tell you, okay, here's my vehicle before Christ. Here is how I received Christ, I opened the door of my life, I gave him the keys, I went around the car and sat in the copilot seat and he is driving everything I do. You must hear that story. But you know what, people give all sorts of excuses when they're posed with that question and especially ladies, guys do this. So I've listed some excuses, you'll see them on the side screens, that we give ladies when we're dating about the story question. Number one, oh babe, isn't it funny how we call it, babe, babe, now, babe, babe, used to be honey, babe, babe, babe, babe, I've always been a Christian. Really? Well, that's impossible. You're not born? believes in God. Deem is believing God. In such a degree, they tremble. When I was, when I was 12, I was confirmed. Seriously. Okay. Good. Lisa was confirmed in the Lutheran Church. That's great. But again, it does not constitute your Christianity, or it does not say that Jesus is driving the car. Babe, I'm a spiritual person. Everything is spiritual. And here's my favorite. I attend fellowship church. Well, I mean, great. We're glad to have you here, but every single person you meet here is not someone who's given the keys to Jesus. Now most of us have, but there are many who haven't. That's a pretty good question, isn't it? That's a question you can ask your spouse. That's a question you need to grapple with. Have you given the keys to Christ? Because I know if you haven't, your life is a mess. Your life doesn't have any real direction. I mean, the RPMs, revolutions per minute aren't really doing what they should do. But here's another question you can ask this person that you're talking to. And I love this one. Hey, are you involved

in church? It's very simple, straightforward, and I'm talking to the students. Are you involved in church? In other words, do you park your roles regularly in the church parking line? Are you involved in church? I meet a lot of people, and I was working out a while back and met this guy at the gym. And we got to talking, and he was like, hey, man, I'm he's a gym, bro. Hey, man, what do you, what do you got going this weekend? And I decided to drop the dime on him because any time I tell people what I do for a living, I love their eyes. They watch their eyes. They're like this. And they're like, they're thinking about all of the F-bombs. They've dropped before they knew that. It's hilarious. I love it. It's just humor. It's humor for me, okay? Just let me laugh at it. This guy goes, and I go, man, on weekends, I'm pretty busy. What do you do? I'm a pastor. They're like waiting for the punchline. I go, no, no, no. I'm serious, man. I'm a pastor. And I tell people this too, which is true. I said, when I tell you I'm a pastor, put a comma. I'm an author, written, whatever, almost 30 books. I have done a lot of real estate. I do investment. So I do other things, but they still get hung up. Pastor, you got to be kidding. Then they'll go, oh, man, I love the Lord. I don't just start confessing, I'm a Christian, man. And then I love this next question. It's a little cruel, but I do it not all the time, now and then. I don't want to have fun with people. I do it, especially to a gym, bro. I'll go, well, oh, that's great. You're a Christian. Where do you go to church? One on the corner. Oh, man, what's the pastor's name? Is it Joel Osteen? No, no, no, no, no, bro. I mean, poor thing. I'm like, that's okay. That's okay. That's okay. But the person that you're dating should be a part of a local church and involved in the local church. And the person should have been planted there for a while. We have, are you ready for this? We have over 10,000 and 45 churches and ministries based in Dallas Fort Worth. So there's no excuse. I've been here 35 years who church hot and shop. And Bob was hot, was not great. We have great churches. Be committed to one church and stay there. I mean, think about marriage. What if you did that in marriage? I'm kind of bored, boom.

You're not really talking about what I want to talk about, honey, boom. So get planted in a church. And you'll see consistency in this person's life. And you'll see the next thing, the fruit of a person's life. And that's the third question. Do they produce fruit? See the exhaust in this rolls? Man, do all exhaust. I've studied this and what comes out of the car, the exhaust, tells you what's in the car. So this Rolls-Royce is going to produce quality exhaust. Are they producing the fruit of the spirit? Just go down the list. There's nine of them. I'm going to read them fast. I'm not going to unpack each one. Galatians 5 verse 22 and 23. Hey, are you a loving person? Do you love God and others? Are you committed? Are you joyful? I mean, is it just based on happenings? Are you just happy when you're driving this ridiculously expensive car? Or are you happy driving a 1967 lime green Delta 88 Osmobile? I'll talk about that later in this series. How about peace? Do you have the ministry of reconciliation? Because you will have issues in marriage.

Marriage? Guys, marriage is hard. Now, it's great, but we have to work at it. Dating is about marriage and marriage is about dating. Hmm. Are they patient? Are they kind? Are they full of goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control? I mean, if they want to have sex with you before marriage and they just jump gods, guardrails, and guidelines, what's going to keep them from jumping in the sack with another attractive coworker once you're married? You ever thought about that? Oh, I can't wait to talk about sex. I've written books about it. I've lectured on it a lot. You might be thinking, well, Ed, what do you really know about dating? You're 65 years old. Well, I know a heck of a lot more than anyone here. I'll tell you that. I've spoken to hundreds of thousands. I counted it up. Hundreds of thousands of single adults about these topics. So by God's grace, I'm an expert on this. And we're going to talk about this in an open way. And if you find another way that works, please come down front and tell me because I've never met a person.

I have never met a person. I have never met a person who's driving their own car, who has the freedom and the joy and the RPMs. I've never met the person who's hitting on all cylinders like the person who's allowing Jesus to drive. So my prayer for you is unclench your white knuckle grip and give the keys to Jesus. There's another question too. This is kind of a sneaky one. OK, I'm in the Rolls-Royce, OK? And you can ask your spouse this and discuss this. So I'm in the Rolls. I'm driving. I stop. All right. It's raining outside. That's OK. [LAUGHTER] It's a Rolls-Royce umbrella. You've got to be kidding me. It's raining. How ignorant would I be if it were raining? And I was like this. Yeah, a lot of us live our lives like this. I mean, I'm talking about the people that we're talking to, drenched in dysfunction, pelted by problems. God has put over us so we can get over those things God has put beneath us But we'll never know what she but should be beneath us until we get under what God's put over us How is this person with authority issues? How does this person treat someone that can do nothing for them?

How does this person treat the server? How does this person treat the guy parking the car at valet? How do you how do you treat your parents? How do you treat those? I'm not saying they're better under the umbrella under the authority How do you get under the authority of them? That's a massive question one of the biggest causes of divorce is authority issues Last time I checked guys. We are the leaders of the relationship. I didn't say we're superior I would argue women are superior. No doubt But we've been given that mantle and a lot of guys a lot of the soft males are like We we dropped the Rolls Royce umbrella That tides boom And when a woman sees an umbrella on the ground Girl, I'm gonna pick that up Should just take the leadership position So guys you need to marry someone who is the princess of the parasol That's a fancy way to say umbrella and you need to look for an umbrella fella because if this person is Not getting under the authority of God God always works. He always works. He always works with authority Then you've got authority issues, and you better make a U-turn And get out of there Well, let me circle back because I didn't answer a critical question Why would God I mean why would God have this verse in there? I mean I've given you some reasons But let's get a little bit deeper. Why why would God say? only merge with followers of Christ I Mean why why would God say that? several reasons I Hit on this a second ago, but he wants us to hit on all cylinders. God does he wants your marriage in my marriage He wants your dating relationship to hit on all cylinders going the same Direction is I said earlier. You don't buy your rolls and go man. I can't wait to crash it No, no, no, you give the keys to Jesus and

The person you're talking to is given the keys to Jesus the person you're married to both of you given the keys to Jesus and you in unity in Concert are moving down the road People say I just want to find my soul mate There's no such thing. That's Greek mythology. Did you know that Greek mythology says that Zeus chopped us in half and We're walking around in habs and we'll somehow find our soul mate and then the habs will become a whole So romantic Well, that's what that's fantasy file To have a whole relationship we need to give the totality of our lives To Jesus because his mat is one plus one equals one Don't you see the genius of God? Another reason why God insists on this compatibility. I'm sure you were thinking about this He wants us to read off the same owner's manual I've been married for 44 years Can you imagine if I was reading off an owner's manual in a Rolls Royce and Lisa was reading off an owner's manual from a Tahoe? It wouldn't really work with it So how do you expect a marriage to work when he's operating off one owner's manual and she's operating off another? You have a difficulty you're troubleshooting How do you deal with reconciliation? If you're both reading off the same owners manual The guy knows I'm the leader of the relationship. It's my responsibility to take the initiative to make the relationship right even though She is 99.9% wrong Yeah, it's our prerogative Who is gonna make the financial? Call the final decision. Who are you see it's all? And then, I'm impressed for time, but another reason God insists on this is he wants us operating off of the same map app,

the same parent map app. Parenting isn't for cowards, is it? And I've heard the kids play parents against one another. I've just heard that, that's rumor. It's critical that we operate with a unified front in dealing with kids. Again. Okay, let's say you're operating off one map app. You're going to one destination. Let's say you are following Christ tenaciously. You've given him the keys. He's driving. And let's say the other party is just doing what they want to do. They're not following that map app. They're following another one. A worldly one. Your child comes up and talks about sex. Your mom goes, "Oh, sex is great." But sex is reserved for the marriage bed. Then you talk to dad, "Oh, man." If you find the right one, definitely have sex. You got to test drive, right? You see the difference? You see the problems? So number one, in defective dating, look and see who's behind the wheel. But there's a second one, and I'm just going to give you, I'm just going to drive by on this one, okay? But this is so real, it's scary. Defective daters have the showroom floor mentality.

The showroom floor mentality, we're looking for cars, and we finally see that car, the lights, and it's so beautiful, and we can tend, I'm talking to guys now, to focus on a few features. Wow. (audience laughing) (audience laughing) This is a smoke show. We focused on a few features, and we miss the entire car. Ladies, I'm not going to let you off the hook. Girl, I don't care what he looks like, he drives the rolls. (audience laughing) Let's say you have half a million dollars or a million dollars to drop on a car. You're not going to go, oh man, I like the paint job. I like the trunk and the grill, I'm going to buy it. No, we're going to study it and think about it. And I'm sure there's so much money, you know, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, we make even more explicit decisions when it comes to relationships, and we don't do any homework. There's three more that I'll get into next week that play off all of these, so please don't miss it, but I'm going to go back to the car keys. The big idea of this talk is the car keys. Have you given the car keys of your life to Jesus Christ? That's what I'm asking, because it begins and ends with him. I mean, do you have a white knuckle grip on the steering wheel?

Or have you said, yeah, Jesus, you can come in and, yeah, I know it's kind of cramped back there, but you sit in the back seat. If you say that, I'm not even sure you're a follower of Christ, because if Jesus is not Lord of all, he's not Lord at all. Have you given him the keys? And here's a beautiful thing. He wants to invade our lives, and even though you might be going, "Edd, I wreck," he will take those defective parts, those broken parts and repair them, and change them and perfect them if you'll just give him the keys. Because once you do, friends, once you do, I'm talking to the person with the balcony now, once you do, I'm talking to downtown and Fort Worth and Frisco and El Paso Ranch and those watching online. Once you do, you'll have to do that. Let's pray together, Father. I pray for some here who need to make that transfer. You need to simply say, Jesus, I admit to you that I've wrecked my life because of sin. I turn from my sin, just say then that I turn to you. I turn to you, Jesus, I give you the keys. I open the door of my life and I'm moving around to the co-pilot seat. I'm riding shotgun, you take control of me. I turn, I do a U-turn from my sins and turn to you.

I ask you, Jesus, just say that. To come into my life, I give you the keys. You drive. And I'm telling you something, friends. When you make that decision, the RPMs, the cylinders, you won't believe. What will happen? So Father, we give this time to you. Bring us back next time as we get even deeper into relationships, passion, and marriage. For Christ's sake, we pray. Amen. Amen, come on, aren't you thankful? You came to church today. Hey, make sure you make plans to be back with us next Sunday. Any married couples in the room, can I get a show of hands? Yeah, make some noise if you're married. I wanna encourage you, I wanna encourage you to be a part of our Creative Marriage Conference in February of 2027. We would love to have you there. It's great, yearly, regularly scheduled maintenance. A great time to be there. Fellowship Church, would you stand to your feet today? If you made a decision for that key transfer, we've got hosts on either side of the worship center that would love to pray with you, give you a gift, and walk you through your next steps.

And let's leave by declaring these things together, say with me, say, Jesus, thank you, that in you. I am loved, forgiven, and blessed for you. Our reach up in worship, reach out to share my faith, and reach in to become more like you. And because of you, I know the best is yet to come. Fellows from church, we love you. (upbeat music)